This is for anyone who is suffering the pain of loss.  Loss of someone or something important in your life is one of the most difficult things you will ever have to deal with.  And though it feels excruciating, it’s part of what makes your life rich – it is the other half of love.

Right now you are likely struggling with what you want to believe is impossible.  It feels so wrong – like such a violation of natural laws. Your brain and body also wants desperately to deny that this loss is true.  That is the fear of the pain you will feel – you don’t want to look.  Like you almost want to forget – to avoid confronting this truth.

I must tell you that although the pain is almost unbearable, it will not kill you.  You will move through it – just allow yourself to move through it a little bit at a time. Act as your own caregiver in the way you treat this managing of pain. 

I know it's a process that will feel like it's never ending but in reality it will be much shorter than you think, and every day it will get the tiniest bit easier. Just the tiniest bit. And one day you will once again be happy.

Right now - all you can do is move through this time with grace: decide you are going to take it easy on yourself and soothe yourself in any and all ways you possibly can.  The best tools I can give you are to manage the processing of the pain in small and manageable increments, so that you can remain as stable and healthy as possible.  

What I will (hopefully) give you: 
- A structure to abide for self-care.  
- A way to mourn so that you can continue to function and take care of yourself.

This one's for Bo. I hope this helps you even a little bit! xox

Episode 30: Mourning and Dealing with the Pain of Loss

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