In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about how to use the feedback from others for personal development.

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    Feedback is the willingness to accept information that the world gives us in order to respond and get the best results possible.
    Our resistance to receiving feedback we don’t like is often our ego being triggered.
    We see ourselves as better than we really are, and that’s a good thing. Confidence makes up for a multitude of sins.
    We rely on confidence so much that when the world gives us feedback to shake it, our ego can become distressed that we no longer have confidence to fall back upon.
    When we ignore feedback, we don’t give ourselves an opportunity to improve.
    When people are convinced they’re right, they especially ignore feedback.
    Listening to feedback doesn’t mean that you only listen to sources you deem credible or that you agree with.
    Giving feedback too much credence can also be dangerous. Individuals can be reflecting their subjective perspective, not necessarily ‘reality’.
    Feedback comes from both the ‘inner world’ and the ‘outer world’.  We need a healthy balance of both.
    Introverts have a tendency to tune out feedback that doesn’t resonant with their inner world. This is great for dealing with nay-sayers, but not for changing course when needed.
    Extraverts, on the other hand, are more sensitive to outer world feedback but not to their internal feedback.
    “The best feedback is something that threatens a dearly held belief.”
    When our beliefs are challenged, we start to act like addicts for the belief(s).
    All growth happens in discomfort, so we have to be willing to accept uncomfortable feedback.
    Cognitive dissonance is when we experience stress because we are holding two opposing beliefs. We can avoid feedback because we don’t want to experience cognitive dissonance, but we need to be okay with feedback that may threaten a precious belief and remember “the way out is through.” There’s a part of you listening, anyway.
    Feedback will always challenge what you think, feel and where you stand.

Exercises we recommend in this podcast:

Make a list of between one and three pieces of feedback that make you feel the most uncomfortable (angry, frustrated, ashamed, sad, or makes you squirm). It will feel horrible, but your biggest growth is tied to that feedback. Even if you end up not agreeing with the feedback, exploring it is high leverage for self-understanding.

Feedback That Makes You Squirm | PODCAST 0010

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Feedback That Makes You Squirm | PODCAST 0010

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