The notion of self-care—like its precursor, self-help—has emerged due to a spiritual vacuum in the contemporary world. The burgeoning mental health crisis that is prevalent today appears inseparable from the broader existential predicament facing humanity. Mainstream psychology and its therapies have not been able to address these challenges, in response to which we have seen the inevitable rise of self-care remedies. Across humanity’s diverse spiritual cultures, these have always been available, yet they were invariably grounded in a religious tradition and its sacred psychology. The more we are marginalized from such roots, the more self-care is required—our current obsession with which is the unacknowledged search for wholeness due to modern people having lost their sense of the sacred.

Why Self-Care Is Not Enough: The Nature of True Well-Being

𝗖𝗜𝗧𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡: Margolis, B. D. (1994). Notes on #narcissistic resistance. 𝘔𝘰𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘯 #Psychoanalysis, 19(2), 179–186.

𝗔𝗕𝗦𝗧𝗥𝗔𝗖𝗧: Resistance is both integral to analysis & a counterforce to its progress. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗵𝗼𝗿 𝗲𝘅𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗶𝗻𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲, 𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗻𝗮𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 & 𝗮𝗻𝗮𝗹𝘆𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗳𝘂𝗻𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻. Conceptualized as defensive structures & often crystallized in #character traits, resistance protects against painful affect & emerges in object relations regarding the #therapy dyad. In narcissistic patients, #resistance sustains defensive organization & functions communicatively. Resolution enables progressive communication that reestablishes links with the broader world.

Notes on Narcissistic Resistance

𝗠𝘆 𝟯𝟴𝘁𝗵 #podcast — "HEGEMONIC MASCULINITY" — 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗗𝗿𝘀. 𝗖𝗵𝗿𝗶𝘀 𝗕𝗿𝗮𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗮𝘄, 𝗝𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻 𝗚𝗮𝗿𝗯𝗲𝗿 & 𝗢𝗹𝘂𝗺𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝗔𝗷𝘂𝗹𝗼. 🎧

We discussed how mentorship & community can reshape #masculinity. 𝗗𝗿𝗮𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗰𝗵, 𝘄𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗼𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗽𝗲𝗲𝗿-𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺𝘀 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 #men 𝗺𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗺, 𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝘃𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 & 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱 𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀. This type of mentorship fosters mutual #growth, belonging, and collective healing —challenging hegemonic norms & redefining what it means to be a #man. 💜

THE TALKING CURE 38: HEGEMONIC MASCULINITY (Chris Bradshaw, Justin Garber, T. Goodman & Olu Ajulo)

Download a PDF of this book at https://dn710208.ca.archive.org/0/items/frankl-viktor-mans-search-for-meaning-1963/FRANKL_Viktor_Man%27s_Search_For_Meaning-1963_text.pdf.

𝗖𝗜𝗧𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡: Frankl, V. (2006). 𝘔𝘢𝘯’𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘤𝘩 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨. Beacon Press.

𝗔𝗕𝗦𝗧𝗥𝗔𝗖𝗧: 𝗜𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸, 𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗸𝗹 𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗼𝗶𝗿 & #psychology, 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗛𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 & 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗱𝘂𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆, 𝗵𝗶𝘀 #existential 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗼 #therapy. Frankl argues that humans can endure profound suffering if they find meaning, even in the bleakest circumstances. 𝘍𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘬𝘭 𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 #resilience, 𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦 & 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘤𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 & 𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘶𝘦𝘴.

Man's Search for Meaning (pgs. 41-65)

𝗧𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗽𝗮𝗽𝗲𝗿, 𝗴𝗼 𝘁𝗼 https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233070367_A_relational_constructivist_approach_to_narrative_therapy.

𝗖𝗜𝗧𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡: Botella, L., & Herrero, O. (2000). A relational constructivist approach to #narrative therapy. 𝘌𝘶𝘳𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘑𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘗𝘴𝘺𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘺, #Counseling & #Health, 3(3), 407–422.

𝗔𝗕𝗦𝗧𝗥𝗔𝗖𝗧: 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗽𝗮𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗳 𝗻𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 #therapy 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝘂𝗿𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗱𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹𝗼𝗽 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘂𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 & 𝘀𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗲𝘀. In the first section the 10 main assumptions of #relational constructivism are discussed. In the second section, a case study is presented in order to illustrate the therapeutic use of these assumptions.  🤔

A Relational Constructivist Approach to Narrative Therapy

Man's Search for Meaning (pgs. 65-91)

Experiences in a Concentration Camp (Part 1 of "Man's Search for Meaning")

My 𝟯𝟵𝘁𝗵 #podcast, "𝙷̲𝚎̲𝚊̲𝚕̲𝚒̲𝚗̲𝚐̲ 𝚝̲𝚑̲𝚎̲ 𝚂̲𝚙̲𝚕̲𝚒̲𝚝̲: 𝙰̲𝚕̲𝚌̲𝚑̲𝚎̲𝚖̲𝚒̲𝚣̲𝚒̲𝚗̲𝚐̲ 𝚝̲𝚑̲𝚎̲ 𝙼̲𝚊̲𝚜̲𝚌̲𝚞̲𝚕̲𝚒̲𝚗̲𝚎̲ & 𝙵̲𝚎̲𝚖̲𝚒̲𝚗̲𝚒̲𝚗̲𝚎̲", 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝘁𝘂𝗿ed Tonyah Dee — dietitian, meditation teacher & author. 🎧

We 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝘂𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗴𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 #psychology, #spirituality, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗲𝘅𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗲𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘀 𝗯𝗼𝘁𝗵 𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 & 𝗮𝗿𝘁. 💡

Tonyah shared her journey from anxiety and addiction to awakening through #meditation, yoga & therapy. 🧘‍♀️

𝗪𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗼𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 “𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗲𝗿𝘀", 𝗯𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝘀𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 & 𝗳𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗺𝗲𝗻'𝘀 #mentalhealth, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝗹𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗺𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 “𝘈𝘨𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘈𝘯𝘹𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘺". ❤️

The Talking Cure 40: Healing the Split: Alchemizing the Masculine & Feminine

𝗧𝗼 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻𝗹𝗼𝗮𝗱 𝗮 𝗣𝗗𝗙 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸, 𝗴𝗼 𝘁𝗼 https://dn710208.ca.archive.org/0/items/frankl-viktor-mans-search-for-meaning-1963/FRANKL_Viktor_Man%27s_Search_For_Meaning-1963_text.pdf. 💚  

𝘾𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: Frankl, V. (2006). 𝘔𝘢𝘯’𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘤𝘩 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨. Beacon Press. ☮️ 



𝘼𝙗𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩: In his book, 𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗸𝗹 𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗼𝗶𝗿 & #psychology, 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗛𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 & 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗱𝘂𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆, 𝗵𝗶𝘀 #existential 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗼 #therapy. Frankl argues that humans can endure profound suffering if they find meaning, even in the bleakest circumstances. Frankl offers timeless insights into resilience, #purpose & the #human capacity to transcend despair through responsibility & values. 🕊️

Introduction to Logotherapy - Pt. 1 (Man's Search for Meaning, pgs. 100-119, 3rd ed.)

Samuel Bendeck Sotillos, PsyD, LMFT, LPCC, CCMHC, NCC, CPRP, CCTP, MHRS, is a practicing psychotherapist in California, who has worked for many years in the field of mental health and social services. His focus is on the intersection between psychology, culture, and spirituality. He is a member of the Task Force on Indigenous Psychology (Division 32 of the American Psychological Association), an advisor to the Institute of Traditional Psychology, on the scientific board of the Knowledge and Hope Foundation, and on the editorial board of a few journals. He has written four books and edited one. His most recent work is "The Quest For Who We Are: Modern Psychology and the Sacred" (2023). He has written over five dozen articles and one hundred book reviews in a wide range of journals.

Why Self-Care Is Not Enough: The Nature of True Well-Being

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