Sunlight warming our skins breathing the warm awareness of Compassionate Presence, earthing and grounding and anchoring into some safety. 

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Compassionate Presence is the hallmark of NVC and very often, we are dealing with the ‘Jackal’ (unconscious repetitive patterns on autopilot, otherwise known as the inner critic).  They keep repeating themselves ‘You are no good’ etc ……. The Jackal is pretty relentless, and its doing its best to meet your feelings and needs.  Just how do we ‘receive’ the Jackal (the inner critic) that allows for safety and containment avoiding overwhelm and being smothered by emotion, that invites the unmet need, a fresh edge into a new way of behaving and being – wholeness and balance and a way of life that we can live from – this quality of Compassionate Presence.
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Nonviolent Communication Longings of the Heart and other Reflections and Meditations

In compassionate communication we can move from the reactive ’IAM’ I am angry/ hurt and the corresponding actions, which seems to be unconscious, we might shout at someone, or even ourselves.  There is no space in ‘I AM’s’ nor any awareness necessarily, they just seem to appear.  In NVC we learn to pause, to find some breathing space, to let things settle inside of us so we can have a relationship with those parts that come up. We can say ‘something in me’ rather than an @I am’ down there is feeling sad for example.  NVC is about exquisite relationship.  The earth under the feet will bring a sense of safety and containment. Having a sense of the body breathing briefly, coming into relationship with the vicseralness of the body, and as this body does so, we can begin to note the shades of nuanced Ness I n the body experientially.  We invite the intention for a warm and gentle awareness, just kind or compassionate.

Compassionate Empathic Inner Relationship NVC in Presence

The Deer, the Forest, and the Tiger

It's a bit like sitting next to a deer that comes out of a forest. You come down on your haunches and you wait. You see that deer. You don't run at it. You don't say, "Oh, there's a deer!" and run at the deer. It's like—oh my God, the deer runs off. Well, why wouldn't it? It knows something's there.

So we sit down. We wait. The deer comes close. The deer goes, "Oh, this is safe." And then it may finally come and lie down by you. And you go... you put your hand on the deer. Well, you might not. But there's a lot of beauty in this.

And then comes out a tiger. And we go, "Oh..." and then we really feel the ground. I mean, you look down slightly because you don't want to freak the tiger out, right? And we see its beautiful shape. It's a beautiful creature. Very, very beautiful. It's 500 pounds of sheer power and beauty, and it comes weaving over. It too sits down by the deer and by you. And you put your hands on both of them.

And you say: Welcome. That is presence.

Then the tiger gets up and wanders off. And you go, "Okay. It's cool." It's all me, in a way. 

Now there's a deep sigh because it recognizes the complexity of all that. And the beauty of befriending our monsters and our magicians, you know? And how they're not really there to attack us. They're there to serve us, really, underneath it all—if we take time to let them be and sit by them.

But we need to be in presence. We need to be grounded. That's the difference. Once we're there, whatever we do or say will be connecting.

And then Comes a Tiger

Guided Presence and Embodiment Practice
Introduction to Embodied Communication
Self-awareness, it's implied, but certainly any practice which brings presence is really key to non-violent communication.
No awareness of the body, no awareness of emotions, you can't really communicate. You're coming from the head. We really need to be alive to what's alive in us, and what's alive in someone else. So these are tumors are about checking in with your life, really.
In a way that's safe.
So here we go, guys. It's only about 5 minutes, 3 minutes, maybe? You know. So it's really quite short. M.
Beginning the Practice
Yeah, so you can feel free to close your eyes. And you're quite safe here. And, but we just pause into… this shared space.
Arrival and Settling
Yes, and… It's beginning to arrive. Settling.
Grounding Through Physical Contact
Sensing your feet on the ground. Reading the contact. At the soles of your feet, on the earth. Or, your body on the seat, or settee, or… Whatever it's touching.
Resting in contact. Where the body meets the earth. This is… A key visceral point. connection.
Inviting Embodiment
Inviting embodiment. Just sensing… From the body's sense of itself. It can do that. It can sense clothing on the skin, The soft fabric. You can sense the shape of itself.
The heartbeat, maybe? Breath. Tingling with life. Vibrating with life. It can be warm and cool. Moving and still.
Yeah, just pausing… and sensing.
Expanding Awareness Outward
And perhaps taking a moment to scent outwards. Sensing the room.
And sensing beyond the room, Into the open air. Fast moving towards autumn. The leaves are already changing color into their golds, and… Reds… Browns, curling slightly, maybe.
Connecting with the Natural World
Sensing beyond the canopy of trees. Big blue… Along the clouds, maybe. Up into the stars. Who's… Diamonds and pearls. keeping us company. in infinity.
All this spaciousness in our bodies. Okay, sense. Accompanied by the stars.
Recognizing Our Interconnectedness
Here we are with each other. In our houses, with our families, maybe, or on our own. Local community, neighbors. Cities, or towns, or countryside. Extending around the globe. beings. sentience. human animals, non-human animals.
Life. Being breathed by the universe. All at the same time.
Internal Check-In: Emotions and Feeling States
I'm just taking a moment to check in what's alive and you today? what mood?
Maybe… emotions, or… Feeling tones in the body there.
Sensing where they are in the body. And also.
Exploring Universal Human Needs
Elias are telling us we have needs natural on that. Needs for safety, for care. Love. Closeness. Peace. Freedom. With Zilli. Play and fun. connection. Or healing and wholeness, or growth and learning.
Intention Setting and Life Purpose
Just checking in with what brings you here. What's your intention? What is your… hearts longing. Would make your life more wonderful.
Bring… A richer meaning, and fullness, and fresh edge and flow. Into your life.


What would bring you into your Fullness NVC Attunement

NVC Self Empathic Receiving Wellbeing

Compassionate Communication Meditation
Welcome and Introduction to Presence
Welcome. This is about compassionate communication, an invitation into presence.
Very often, I guess, we're in some quality of absence.
So what is absence?
Understanding Absence: The Jackal Mind
Absence is the propensity to live in the head. We often talk about being stuck in our heads.
So absence is really summarized by the symbol, the jackal. And the jackal represents unconscious, autopilot, habitual habits - especially to do with emotions and language.
These are patterns of being which can be frustrating, constricting, oppressive, if you like. When we're held hostage, and ruled by these patterns, these somethings... Even overwhelmed by them.
Nonviolent Communication and Presence
So NVC, nonviolent communication, begins with the premise of presence.
That is epitomized by the word "awake."
Awake to the sensing. Alive, vibrant. Alive to the nuancedness of feeling and emotion and thought.
All in the context of the sensing, living in an embodied way.
Effectively, it's a conscious life in which choice... choosing presence... inviting a healing forward movement at any given time.
Guided Body Awareness
As the body senses the ground, its own shape. Sense of its whole self. Beginning to rest and settle here. As we pause.
Sensing outwards to include each other. And beyond each other, to include all beings on this planet.
Sensing into the ether. Sensing into that eternity. The stars.
Integration: Inner and Outer Awareness
And the whole of this. And sense inwardly to the inner universe.
Tender and gentle with whatever is present here.
Saying hello to it all as it rests in itself.
Resting here.

Awaken Attunement

From "I Am" to "Something in Me": A Meditation on Self-Relationship

The Challenge of Identity-Level Statements
It's very hard for us to have a relationship with ourselves, or with others, when we come from an "I am."
I am angry. I am enraged. I am jealous. I am frustrated.
These "I ams" are identity-level statements, and they're all-consuming and leading to overwhelm, often. Because an "I am" is the whole of you.
Moving to Awareness and Accuracy
And if we're more honest, these somethings in us are...
Something in me is enraged. Something in me is angry. Something in me, down there, is anxious, or jealous, or...
And as soon as the awareness comes to be accurate to our experience, i.e., it's an experience in me.
This experience is a part of me.
The Practice: Sensing and Experimenting
So I just invite you to sense your body.
Sense your body.
And just experiment with your experience. Say to yourself, oh, I am bored. I am angry. I am... whatever your emotion is, say I am. I am it. I am irritated, or... I am curious, or I am happy.
Now try this. Now go inside yourself there, and notice the feeling tone.
Something in me feels like that. Something in me is angry. Something in me is peaceful.
Befriending What's Inside
Let's go and befriend that. So we can put our hand on our chest or our tummy.
And say, oh, I'm really here to meet you inside. That's something that... it's like that, right now.
In this way, we learn to welcome, to acknowledge.
Is it okay for me to come closer to you, or do you need more space right now?
What kind of empathy would you like from me right now?
Warm and kind, perhaps?
Offering Compassionate Presence
So I'm coming and sitting either side of you. I'm keeping you company. Is there something here in me?
And of course, I'm quietly curious, behind it all, what your unmet need is, or met need is.
You can offer that in your own time. It may take a minute, or it may take 20. It might take a week.
Coming alongside you and keeping you company. As a way of welcoming.
The Transformation: From Overwhelm to Relationship
Moving from an "I am" to a "something in me" for relationship. So a "something in me" means I can have relationship with you.
In a way that's kindly, caring, and compassionate.
Assisting with you in this compassionate, warm way.
Inviting forward movement, healing, and freshness.

Healing Forward Movement and Freshness Attunement

Presence Deep Rest Meditations and Reflections inspired by Focusing, Mindfulness and Nonviolent communication Embodied Relational Presence training and personal coaching.  https://www.living-presence.co.uk/

Compassionate Empathic Inner Relationship NVC in Presence

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