What if the secret to transforming your relationships wasn’t about saying more, but saying it better?&nbsp; I know how hard it can be when communication in your relationship just isn’t working. Those moments when you’re trying so hard to connect, but it feels like you’re speaking two different languages—they’re exhausting and heartbreaking. I’ve seen so many people struggling with this, and I want you to know it doesn’t have to be this way! This week on the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sat down with Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of Supercommunicators, to dive into . We talk about the importance of knowing what kind of conversations you’re having, how to ask better questions to unlock deeper connections, and steps to actually hearing and understanding each other.&nbsp; Whether you’re trying to connect with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker, this conversation is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable tips to help you truly get and be gotten. Chapters: 00:00 - Why communication is the ultimate relationship glue 00:35 - Meet Charles Duhigg, your new favorite communication guru 07:38 - Game-changing tips to up your communication game 08:57 - The art of asking deep, meaningful questions 17:31 - What really works in tough conversations 28:30 - Identifying what people really need from you 31:58 - Building trust through listening and understanding 36:02 - Redefining the goal of conversations 37:49 - Resources for communication skill building My favorite takeaway from this episode was that you don’t have to be born a “supercommunicator.” These are skills that you can learn and improve with practice. So if you’re thinking “Heck yes! I’m ready for some growth!”, check out my free&nbsp;. It’s a step-by-step guide to help you understand what’s really going on beneath the disconnect, and how to rebuild the trust and emotional safety that can get lost along the way. Together, we’ll explore tools and strategies to stop the cycle of conflict, restore your connection, and start creating a more positive chapter for your relationships. Also, let’s connect on  or ! I go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms, diving deeper into topics just like this one and answering all of your personal questions. So check out this episode, and then come chat with me! I’m here to help. 🩵 Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. Know someone who could use this guidance? Maybe a partner or a bestie struggling to communicate? Share this with them! Because better communication makes the world (and your group chats) a much better place. &nbsp;

#439 How To Be a Better Communicator with Charles Duhigg

Ever feel like ? You’re living your best life, maybe even in a happy, healthy relationship—so WHY do they keep popping up in your head, completely uninvited? If you've ever caught yourself late-night stalking their Instagram (oops), wondering what if?, or feeling like you just can’t shake the past, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to move forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness &amp; Success, I dive deep into why you still think about your ex—even when you don’t want to. We’ll talk about the science of attachment, why your brain keeps looping back, and—most importantly—how to finally break free. Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps &amp; How I Can Help You I know how hard it can be to feel stuck in the past when all you really want is to move forward and feel at peace. If today’s conversation resonated with you, I have some resources that can help. First, if you’re wondering why this is happening to you and what you can do about it, I invite you to take my . It’s a free tool designed to help you understand where you are in the healing process and what specific steps you can take next to finally be free of the past. Healing is possible, and you will get through it.&nbsp; And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! Come join my live stream this Thursday at 12 PM MT on  or . We’ll be talking more about why you still think about your ex—and I’ll be answering your questions live. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or just a supportive space, come chat with me. Sending you warmth and support, always. Xoxo   P.S. Know someone who could use this advice? Share this video with them—it might be exactly what they need to hear today. ❤️

#440 Why Your Ex Still Haunts You (And How to Let Go For Good)

That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself,  Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too. In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational. By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand:   Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story)   The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new   What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you)   How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing   Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU.&nbsp;&nbsp; Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps &amp; How I Can Help You I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too.&nbsp; I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free  to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️ Xoxo  &nbsp; P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear. &nbsp;

#441 Why Your Ex Moved On So Fast (And How You Can Too)

Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup… but instead, you’re just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional  instead of helping you move forward. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn’t always work, and what actually does. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down:   The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups   The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!)   Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords)   The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles   Timestamps: 00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!) 00:51 - Why Therapists Aren’t Trained in Heartbreak Recovery 02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist 15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck 24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it’s NOT what you think!) 26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?) 34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources I know how hard this is. If you’ve been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to move on—please know that it’s not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don’t have the right map, it’s so easy to stay lost in the pain.&nbsp; That’s exactly why I created the —to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It’s completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward.&nbsp; And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on  and . Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve!&nbsp; Here’s to your healing and growth. 🌱&nbsp; Xoxo   P.S. If you know someone who could use a little bit of support today as they navigate their breakup, share this episode with them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear today. ❤️ &nbsp;

#442 When Therapy For Breakups Backfires (And What To Do Instead)

Ever felt like you completely ? Like one day you woke up and thought, Wait… who even am I anymore? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and, spoiler alert, it’s not just in your head. There’s real science behind why we fuse our identities with our partners and why breakups can feel like more than just heartbreak—they can feel like an identity crisis. In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with relationship scientist Dr. Morgan Cope to break down the psychology behind losing yourself in a relationship, why it happens, and most importantly—how to rebuild your identity after love. Whether you're freshly single, in a relationship that feels too enmeshed, or just curious about how relationships shape our sense of self, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical strategies to help you come back to YOU. Timestamps: 00:00 - Is Losing Yourself in a Relationship a Real Thing? 00:35 - Meet Dr. Morgan Cope &amp; Her Research on Relationships &amp; Identity 01:00 - Understanding Identity in Relationships 03:07 - Attachment Styles and Identity 07:30 - Impact of Breakups on Identity 24:42 - Mental and Physical Effects of Breakups 30:27 - Fear of Being Single 32:02 - Changing the Environment vs Changing Yourself 36:56 - Rebounding and Self-Expansion 39:14 - Identity and Values Assessment 44:11 - Cult Psychology and Group Identity 51:21 - Personal Growth Through Relationship Challenges  Feeling lost after a breakup? I know how hard it can be to find yourself again, so I created something to help you out on your healing journey. Check out my FREE  to get personalized insights on where you are in your healing journey &amp; how to move forward so you can begin to feel like yourself again. And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! You can find me on  or . Every week, I drop a new podcast episode dedicated to your personal growth and healing so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I hope to see you there!&nbsp; Xoxo   P.S. Know someone who might need to hear this? Share this video with a friend who’s struggling in their relationship or going through a tough breakup. 💕

#443 Love Shouldn’t Erase You: How to Stop Losing Yourself in a Relationship

Ever wonder why your child melts down over the tiniest thing—or how to actually help them navigate big emotions? Today, we’re diving into the world of , an evidence-based approach that helps kids build confidence, self-regulation, and emotional resilience… all through PLAY. I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Brenna Hicks, a specialist in helping parents use these techniques at home to create a happier, calmer family environment. Whether you have a preschooler, a strong-willed school-age kid, or a moody teen, this conversation will give you powerful tools to understand your child’s emotional world—and strengthen your bond in the process. We’re covering:   What makes Child-Centered Play Therapy different from other approaches   How play can help kids process emotions (even when words fail!)   What really causes tantrums and dysregulation   Simple therapist-approved parenting strategies you can start using today   How to know if your child might need therapy—and how to find the right therapist   Timestamps: 03:29 - What is Child-Centered Play Therapy (and why does it work?) 09:27 - The parent’s role in play therapy (and why it’s a game-changer!) 16:03 - Why kids “act out” and what’s really going on 23:09 - The surprising science behind play as therapy 34:41 - How therapy transforms kids from anxious to confident 36:27 - What to do if your child is struggling emotionally 43:20 - How to tell if a therapist is actually qualified to help your child 47:58 - Parenting tips: What to say (and what not to say) to your kid 53:11 - When to seek professional help &amp; what to look for in a therapist 01:02:49 - Resources, next steps &amp; final thoughts I know how much you love your child and want the absolute best for them. Parenting is one of the most rewarding—and challenging—jobs in the world, and sometimes, we all need a little extra guidance and encouragement. That’s why I created the Happy Families Collection—a curated set of expert tips, strategies, and insights designed to help you build a stronger, more connected, and emotionally healthy family. ✨ 👉  And if you loved this episode, let’s stay connected!&nbsp; for daily inspiration and expert-backed advice, and don’t forget to  for even more deep-dive conversations so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. You’re doing an amazing job, and I’m so honored to be on this journey with you! Xoxo   P.S. If you know a parent who could benefit from this episode, share it with them! I know personally that us parents really appreciate the love and support. &nbsp;

#444 Child-Centered Play Therapy for Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids

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