You can do a lot of great work on yourself with a journal. If you want to try and work through a problem, or you want to start a journal but don’t know what to write about, this is an episode for you. It can also be really confusing as to what to talk about. Especially if nothing flows. 

The journal I use is this one:
https://amzn.to/3tV5Vc5

And to apply for the free chat session you can head here:
https://www.yaywithme.com/shop/apply-for-a-free-recorded-chat-session

This episode is sponsored by Better Help: online access to therapists, around the globe. If you want to support this show, use our code for 10% off your first month of therapy. Head to TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

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Ep 142: Self-Dialoguing - How to Do Self-Work in a Journal

Tools for regaining a sense of autonomy and self-confidence if you find that you are clinging and overly sensitive to the opinions of others. So if you are in a codependent relationship or you feel trapped in that fear-based loop that can happen when you are too consumed by a relationship, and you feel small and powerless, this is an episode for you. These are exercises – both physical and written- to do in order to condition your mind and body to resume a more empowered headspace.  Strong. Self-assured. If you are feeling reliant on someone else or something else – like your value is somehow dictated by that thing, try starting here. I did these steps myself recently and found them to be re-centering and enlightening.

Ep 145: Regaining Confidence and Autonomy When Feeling Clingy + Small

A Lorca Quintet (Trans. Shaw/Harding)

The Buddha had a prescription to end suffering—the eightfold path. But can the Western tradition of psychotherapy build upon these essential steps? Here, Buddhist psychotherapist and bestselling author Epstein talks with Tricycle contributing editor Amy Gross about how the two realms of wisdom view the idea of self as both problematic and helpful. Drawing from his new book, Advice Not Given: A Guide to Getting Over Yourself, to discuss the ways meditation illuminates aspects of ourselves that we’re afraid or ashamed of, allowing us to let go of the identities that constrict us.

Mark Epstein: The Task Is Being You

“Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet / confinement of your aloneness / to learn / anything or anyone / that does not bring you alive / is too small for you.” David Whyte is a poet and philosopher who believes in the power of a “beautiful question” amid the drama of work as well as the drama of life and the ways the two overlap. He shared a deep friendship with the late Irish philosopher John O’Donohue. They were, David Whyte says, like “two bookends.” More recently, he’s written about the consolation, nourishment, and underlying meaning of everyday words. Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org. This show originally aired in April 2016.

On Being with Krista Tippett

David Whyte – The Conversational Nature Of Reality

Fragments from the forthcoming multi-disc release “The Last Things” by Phil Tomsett & the Inventors of Aircraft.

Wist Rec 29 takes a psychogeographic tour of Paul Auster’s ‘In the Country of Last Things’ though set in a small village to which our protagonist ventures to. 
https://wistrec.com/wist-rec-029-2/

Phil Tomsett & the Inventors of Aircraft, The Last Things (fragments)

This is for anyone who has escaped a relationship with a narcissist and they reach out to you, out of the blue – and how to navigate that situation. So if you were manipulated, taken advantage of, and could not find your way out of a relationship that left you feeling like the shell of a human – you were likely with a narcissist. Getting out of this kind of relationship is extremely difficult – so the eventual reach-out from this person might leave you feeling sick to your stomach. I send you my love and please stay strong!

The two previous episodes I have done on this topic are here:
https://soundcloud.com/helpmebeme/episode-50-how-to-break-away-from-a-narcissist-relationship
https://soundcloud.com/helpmebeme/ep-111-how-to-tell-if-youre-dating-a-narcissist

The book I mentioned that I like on this topic is here:
https://amzn.to/3iFhYEC

This episode is brought to you by Better Help: online access to therapists, around the globe. If you want to support this show, use our code for 10% off your first month of therapy. Head to TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

When the Narcissist Contacts You Out of the Blue

If you have insecurities that come up and cause you to push your partner away or cling too closely, this is for you. Maybe you find that you are acting out in petty ways – like, starting fights. Or maybe it comes out in jealousy. When you get insecure, you are taken out of the present joy of a relationship, something that can make you feel haunted or like you are going crazy. The worst part of insecurities is you unfriend yourself in the process. You don’t feel you SHOULD feel the way you do, so it makes you feel shitty about yourself FOR feeling shitty about yourself. Often what we do in these situations is pretend it isn’t happening. So if this sounds true for you – this is an episode for you!
As with all my episodes, there are 3 parts – the what, why, and how the tools. 

This episode is sponsored by Better Help: online therapy with licensed counselors, available around the globe. If you feel stuck in life or something is blocking you from the change you want to make, try Better Help – simply fill out a survey and they will match you with a counselor within 48 hours. And if you want to help out this podcast, use our code and get 10% off your first month of therapy: visit TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

Ep 134: How to Stop Insecurities From Hurting Your Relationship

Reminiscent of one of my first posted songs, "Violet Light"

if you're listening and it means something to you, let me know xx

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Pick me up on a Sunday
Drive me home, I live just below the grade 
Say you’re jaded in love and
You can’t stay
In the same place

Compliance isn’t my forte
Listen but I choose to ignore it
If I keep knocking 
You’ll have to open it 
That’s what I’m hoping 

Come apart in color 
Shades of you 
In better parts of me 
Covered us in deep blue 
While I’m bleeding

Purple haze 
The way you taste 
deep enough to drown in 

Lavender 
The way it hurts 
Love leaves pretty bruises 

Ultraviolet 
You’re still fighting 
I’m certain i just 
Colored 
in your lies

Turn around and you chase me
Swear that you only want me when I don’t 
Like to play Tug of war with my patience 
I can’t take it

This time I know it’s fleeting
The stars align for a while and then they move
Chalk it up as a loss and conceding
You don’t mean it 

Come apart in color 
Shades of you 
In better parts of me 
Covered us in deep blue 
While I’m bleeding

Purple haze 
The way you taste 
deep enough to drown in 

Lavender 
The way it hurts 
Love leaves pretty bruises 

Ultraviolet 
You’re still fighting 
I’m certain i just 
Colored 
in your lies

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Ultraviolet

This is a power-up (shorter) episode for anyone who has been living in a purely reactive state where they are going through the motions/dealing with thousands of to-do’s. It’s really easy to forget what is good and fun in your life and with that, we start expecting/seeing only the serious and dire around us. It’s also easy to forget what makes you You, and what makes that self-awesome. This is a little energy-setting reminder. 

This episode is sponsored by Better Help: online access to therapists, around the globe. If you want to support this show, use our code for 10% off your first month of therapy. Head to TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

Don’t Forget Yourself: Keeping Lightness in Your Life

This rare meditative 7-inch record by sitar and surbahar master Chandrashekar Naringrekar, the disciple of the illustrious Dhrupad Rudra veena maestro Zia Mohiuddin Dagar, is available for Flac and MP3 download on my blog:
https://music-republic-world-traditional.blogspot.com/2020/12/india-inde-chandrashekhar-naringrekar.html

His Master's Voice - 7 EPE 1590 (7 in 45 RPM)

Chandrashekhar Naringrekar Dhrupad bass sitar

Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/mom/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com