Tools for regaining a sense of autonomy and self-confidence if you find that you are clinging and overly sensitive to the opinions of others. So if you are in a codependent relationship or you feel trapped in that fear-based loop that can happen when you are too consumed by a relationship, and you feel small and powerless, this is an episode for you. These are exercises – both physical and written- to do in order to condition your mind and body to resume a more empowered headspace.  Strong. Self-assured. If you are feeling reliant on someone else or something else – like your value is somehow dictated by that thing, try starting here. I did these steps myself recently and found them to be re-centering and enlightening.

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Ep 145: Regaining Confidence and Autonomy When Feeling Clingy + Small

As search engines are radically reinvented, computers and people are becoming partners in exploration. With an introduction by author Adrienne LaFrance. Full text published here: http://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2016/12/the-search-for-lost-knowledge/506879/

Searching for Lost Knowledge in the Age of Intelligent Machines - Adrienne LaFrance - The Atlantic

YouTube version here 
https://youtu.be/KNkjA08G7PI

Patch I made the other day in the style of Penderecki

Fragments from the forthcoming multi-disc release “The Last Things” by Phil Tomsett & the Inventors of Aircraft.

Wist Rec 29 takes a psychogeographic tour of Paul Auster’s ‘In the Country of Last Things’ though set in a small village to which our protagonist ventures to. 
https://wistrec.com/wist-rec-029-2/

Phil Tomsett & the Inventors of Aircraft, The Last Things (fragments)

This is an episode for if you have a painful obsession with an ex or a pervasive habit of fixating on relationships: they’re more important than job, personal time, family and friends. And often that relationship is one you know isn’t great – but you still obsess about that person, and it consumes your life. This might be especially painful during quarantine because you’re unable to distract yourself and do something about it.

This is about putting yourself in ridiculously desperate positions, clinging to a relationship – even when you know it isn’t right for you. And that gush of fear, terror, loneliness, pain that overwhelms you and causes you to feel like you’d do ANYTHING to get someone to come back to you. It can make you act in crazy and degrading ways – but the pain of not having a person is too great. This was a request from a few different people (some of whom requested it quite a long time ago - so hopefully this is still helpful)!!

The two books I mention in this episode are here:
https://amzn.to/2SOD9d2
https://amzn.to/35IuJsU

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Ep 130: Clinging Desperately to Relationships – Even When They’re Not Great

If you have insecurities that come up and cause you to push your partner away or cling too closely, this is for you. Maybe you find that you are acting out in petty ways – like, starting fights. Or maybe it comes out in jealousy. When you get insecure, you are taken out of the present joy of a relationship, something that can make you feel haunted or like you are going crazy. The worst part of insecurities is you unfriend yourself in the process. You don’t feel you SHOULD feel the way you do, so it makes you feel shitty about yourself FOR feeling shitty about yourself. Often what we do in these situations is pretend it isn’t happening. So if this sounds true for you – this is an episode for you!
As with all my episodes, there are 3 parts – the what, why, and how the tools. 

This episode is sponsored by Better Help: online therapy with licensed counselors, available around the globe. If you feel stuck in life or something is blocking you from the change you want to make, try Better Help – simply fill out a survey and they will match you with a counselor within 48 hours. And if you want to help out this podcast, use our code and get 10% off your first month of therapy: visit TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

Ep 134: How to Stop Insecurities From Hurting Your Relationship

How being overly identified with what others think is tied to a lack of self-love.  This is for anyone who doesn’t trust themselves and generally doesn’t feel they’re a quality person. If you act in really selfish and self-destructive ways – maybe you betray others and lie or cheat. Or you feel really heavily identified with your body or your appearance, or the attention of others – but you don’t feel there’s much more that’s good about you and who you are, then this is for you. This is about beginning the process of understanding why this is happening and also starting to build up faith that you are a good person. The mindfulness books I mention in this episode are here:
https://amzn.to/3izGVla
https://amzn.to/32jI371
https://amzn.to/2RkNBHY

This episode is sponsored by Better Help: online therapy with licensed counselors, available around the globe. To get started and also help out this podcast, use our code and get 10% off your first month of therapy. Visit TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

Ep 135: Empty on the Inside - Attention-Seeking on the Outside

DISTINCTION BETWEEN THE PRESENT MOMENT AND THE HOLY INSTANT

This is a power-up (shorter) episode for anyone who has been living in a purely reactive state where they are going through the motions/dealing with thousands of to-do’s. It’s really easy to forget what is good and fun in your life and with that, we start expecting/seeing only the serious and dire around us. It’s also easy to forget what makes you You, and what makes that self-awesome. This is a little energy-setting reminder. 

This episode is sponsored by Better Help: online access to therapists, around the globe. If you want to support this show, use our code for 10% off your first month of therapy. Head to TryBetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe

Don’t Forget Yourself: Keeping Lightness in Your Life

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Dive into the deep waters of Self, of Awareness. Commune with your center source while feeling every wave of emotion that arises & dissolves.  Stay Present with the changes. Observe the tone of the story being told. What is the hidden treasure? What is the realization waiting to unfold? Dance the Dance Never-ending. Love.

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Help Me Be Me is an emotional toolkit for creating positive change in yourself. I like to think of it as self-help for people who hate self-help. I'm Sarah May, coach/mom/all-around happy person, and these are the tools that work for me in my life. For all of my offerings you can check out YayWithMe.com What I share is my personal opinion. It's not a diagnosis for treatment or a substitute for professional help. If you're suffering, please reach out to your local emergency services or call 9-1-1. Music theme created by www.BookerHillMusic.com