A Respectful Look at the Views of Others A Five-Minute Quickie from the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast Ever wondered how someone can hold a belief so different from yours — even the total opposite — and still be right? Well, in this five-minute (ish!) ramble, we explore one of NLP’s most important presuppositions: respect for another person’s model of the world. We all build our own "maps" of reality based on our experiences. But what happens when we genuinely listen to someone else's? Can we learn from it? Can it balance, challenge, or even evolve our own beliefs? In this episode:  Why no one’s map is 100% the territory How curiosity leads to harmony (and less conflict) And why active listening could be your secret growth tool  Take a moment, a breath, a coffee — and muse with me. Test everything. Respect difference. Be curious. Want the full experience? Subscribe, follow, and share the hell out of this with someone open-minded like you!  And the video link  More fun than you can stand — wallow in curiosity! Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from . &nbsp; &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism &nbsp; &nbsp;Hey. A little while ago we did a couple of five minute quickies about the, well, the convenient assumptions or presuppositions of NLP. &nbsp; And I wanted to, just for five minutes, to muse about another one, another one. And it's all about respect. Respect for the other person's model of the world. &nbsp; Because I don't know if you know that we all have our own models of the world and we all have our own maps. And someone said, you know, the map is not the territory. So if the map is not the territory and it's our map, but we're not really looking outside to find out what territory is, lovely metaphor, isn't it? But our world is, our world is a map. &nbsp; And we believe it's true, don't we? Everything that we believe must be right because we believe it. And guess what? Other people have different beliefs. Sometimes a bloody opposite. &nbsp; How is that? Because lots of things have happened in the past, their experiences, their backgrounds, their parents, everything you can think of has conspired with them to create beliefs and the choices they make in the world, which gives them more beliefs. And guess what, so have you. And you've formed this thing called a map, which may be right in some places, maybe not quite so right on others, but also there's a whole territory out there, which is constantly changing. &nbsp; And if you think of this modern world right now, everything is changing so quickly too. And we're being overwhelmed by so much information, but also a lot of false information. So it's really distorting everything. &nbsp; So how can our little map...

FMQ 506 A Respectful Look at the Views Of Others

The Alternative To Anxiety and Worry An empowering deep dive into how you can take control of anxiety and worry — and replace them with clarity, calm, and confidence. An empowering deep dive into how you can take control of anxiety and worry — and replace them with clarity, calm, and confidence. In this episode, Paul Clough (yes, me!) shares personal experiences and tried-and-tested NLP and hypnosis-based techniques to help you break the cycle of anxious thoughts, worry loops, and emotional overwhelm. Discover how to:   Dissociate from unhelpful feelings, thoughts, and mental movies   Rewire your internal voice to one of calm, strength, and clarity   Use simple yet powerful visualisation and anchoring techniques   Access the emotional states that truly support you   Stop rehearsing failure and instead direct your own movie of success   Prepare for real-life situations with ease and confidence   You’ll learn how your unconscious mind can work with you rather than against you, so you’re no longer hijacked by imaginary fears or future catastrophes that never even happen. 💡 This isn’t theory — it’s a hands-on process you can do as you listen. So grab a notebook or just settle in with your headphones and let’s stop anxiety in its tracks. Because there is an alternative… and it starts right here. 🎧 Listen now — and please share this episode with someone who needs it.  👉 Also available as a full video on  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from . &nbsp; &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  #456 The Alternative To Anxiety and Worry  An alternative to anxiety and worry. What a great title, isn't it? Great title. &nbsp;  Well, it is Cloughie. I can back it up, I assure you. But first of all, let's just think for a minute. &nbsp;  And this will probably be a little bit of me. And let's see how it matches with your experience. How do we experience anxiety, worry? Well, for me, when something happens like that, I get a weird feeling in my tummy. &nbsp;  It's really quite low in my tummy. And it's not really the most pleasant of feelings. But, hey, that's what it is. &nbsp;  I might get butterflies. And it's more than butterflies. It's more intense, because it's like having ten times more butterflies than butterflies. &nbsp;  So, that's the feeling I get. You know, I could get sometimes, when it's not good, I've had like a dread. Some might say deep dread, but I don't know quite how deep a deep dread goes. &nbsp;  But it was something I dreaded. You know, because it's worry. Something, I can remember a particular thing, it really did worry. &nbsp;  And I couldn't understand why, but that's what was happening. And when I thought about it, that was my heart. You know,...

#456 The Alternative To Anxiety and Worry

In this short yet powerful Five-Minute Quickie episode, we're diving into a question that could seriously supercharge your personal development journey: "How often do you check your progress—and why?" Cloughie explores the sweet spot between over-checking (hello, obsession and lost motivation!) and under-checking (hello, complacency and drifting off-course). Whether it's your personal goals, weight, mindset, career, or even podcast stats, finding your ideal review rhythm is the key to staying on track, boosting motivation, and making real progress. You’ll learn:   Why too much checking can destroy momentum   Why not checking enough can cost you time and energy   The hidden fears behind your review habits (fear of failure or fear of success?)   A simple mindset shift to help you course-correct without self-judgment   How to schedule reviews that actually work for you   👉 This is your wake-up call to review with intention, stay aligned with your goals, and grow with purpose. Please share:  Got a fear of failure or success story to share? Want help turning it around? Email me at:  And remember, this is all about learning to use your skills, energy, and focus to move forward with confidence. Oh! And the video link is here: h Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism &nbsp;  Hey, 5 Minute Muse and I've got a question for you. &nbsp;  I always ask, when we're setting our goals, we're thinking of our week, setting out our day. I always ask, how often do you review? Or do you review? Do you review what you've done? How far you've come? But I want to take this 5 Minute Muse just a little bit deeper. Just something to think about. &nbsp;  Because I'm sure you do. I'm sure you do review. Do you? I'm sorry about that. &nbsp;  But think about it. Do you check and review your progress? Daily? Weekly? Monthly? Quarterly? Yearly? Maybe never. You see, and it depends what it is, obviously. &nbsp;  Could be a project. It could be your weight. It could be, if you do a podcast or a video and all this stuff. &nbsp;  You know, how many likes, how many downloads, whatever it is. We set our targets, how close we are to the goal. Or we have a goal, we have targets and the review is where are we? Where are we from where we were to where we're going? Let's just take a snapshot so we know what we're doing. &nbsp;  Now, if you do it too often, say you did it daily. Some people, when they're checking things like likes, downloads, might do it hourly. What a waste of time. &nbsp;  It might not be a waste of time. That's me. But it is a waste of time. &nbsp;  You see, if you're checking things too often, then you become obsessed. It's like OCD. You become obsessed by just looking...

FMQ 508 An Important Question Why and How Often do you check your progress

But I Can't Afford A Therapist 💥 “I can’t afford therapy…” Sound familiar? You're not alone. And you're not stuck. In this longer unplugged episode, we tackle one of the most common barriers to better mental health: not being able to access or afford professional support. 🎙️ But what if that didn’t have to stop you? This is not about ignoring the problem or playing it down. It's about taking back control—step by step—and discovering powerful, proven ways to feel better, move forward, and heal… without spending a penny. You’ll learn:   Why feeling stuck is natural—but change is possible   The real damage of waiting, blaming, and self-berating (and how to stop)   A DIY approach to emotional healing that’s empowering, practical and free   How to journal your way from confusion to clarity   The one question you must stop asking—and the one that will change everything   Why walking and breathing (yes, really!) can shift your whole internal world   How to create your own step-by-step roadmap from where you are to where you want to be   And access to my free hypnosis tracks to support your journey   💬 Plus: Why giving up is not an option, and how to feel safe, steady and hopeful—even when life feels heavy. This isn’t fluff. It’s action. It’s simple because it works. And it’s here for you right now. 🎧 Listen, share, and let’s start a movement of healing—together.  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from . And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  &nbsp;  #457 But I Can't Afford A Therapist &nbsp; &nbsp;  Hey, back to the longer podcast with me Paul. Personal development unplugged. And I've been hearing quite a few things about people getting anxious because they can't get access to professional support for their mental health. &nbsp;  You know, they're not feeling in a good state and not being able to get access to someone who can help them actually is creating more anxiety, more stress. And therefore obviously that state gets worse, health gets worse and everything just goes tits up basically. So what do you do? What do you do when you can't get any access to that professional support? What do you do? What do you do where you could blame everything else? Everyone else? Because the world is unfair. &nbsp;  Because it is unfair, it's totally unfair. You know, it's not, well, it's just unfair. Or you could have a pity party, which is a bit like blaming the world, isn't it? And just have a pity party by yourself. &nbsp;  You could do. Or you could just hide away. Hide away, not let anybody see that you're down and hide away. &nbsp;  You can hide away in plain sight, by the way, because you can put your defences up. Or you could show everybody, you know,...

#457 But I Can't Afford A Therapist

Restoring Work-Life Balance  (But I Hate the Word “Balance”!) Work-life balance. Sounds nice, doesn’t it? But let’s be honest — balance is boring! Life isn’t a flat line; it’s ups, downs, twists, and turns. What we really want isn’t balance… it’s harmony. In this quick 5-minute episode, we explore why chasing “balance” often leaves you frustrated and how to create the illusion of balance through harmony. You’ll learn how to spot those niggling “off-kilter” feelings, uncover hidden clashes between your values, and make small, powerful micro-corrections that bring life back into flow. Whether it’s work vs. relationships, health vs. ambition, or just feeling stretched in two directions — I’ll give you the tools to notice, question, and adjust. And the best part? These aren’t big life overhauls — they’re tiny shifts that keep your energy, motivation, and relationships thriving. So if you’ve been feeling pulled in all directions, this episode will help you realign without losing the spark that makes life exciting. 🔗 Listen now, share with someone who needs it, and start living in harmony — not flatline “balance.”   Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism &nbsp;  Hey my friends, a quick five minute musing about balance. I hate balance. But work-life balance. &nbsp;  You know, what does that mean? Work-life balance. You see, life is not a flat line. It doesn't happen that way. &nbsp;  It's ups and it's down and it's all over. But it's not a flat line. It's not imbalance. &nbsp;  Because balance is boring. It's so boring. Think of just living your life with just a flat line. &nbsp;  What would you see? Wouldn't it be grey? I think it'd be grey. In my mind it's grey. I've just been looking out there because I know what's happening next. &nbsp;  And you know, I haven't got really many goals because if I have goals I've got to extend myself and push in different directions. You know, if I want to do something this exciting it might challenge me. So that's going to take me off balance. &nbsp;  I get that funny feeling that, oh, I don't like that. God, that's not the way to live, is it? That's not the way to live. So what is? What is the way to live? I'm going to tell you. &nbsp;  Slow down Cluffy. It's about harmony. And I've talked about this before, but harmony creates the balance that doesn't exist. &nbsp;  Which is a weird thing, isn't it? Because I just said it doesn't exist. But it's that harmony that gives the illusion of balance. Because when you need to do one thing it comes along and you spend a little bit more effort there. &nbsp;  A little bit more motivation there....

FMQ 509 Restoring Work Life Balance

3 New Hypnosis Tracks With My Compliments I’ve just re-edited and transformed three of my favourite podcast processes into real hypnosis tracks — multi-layered sessions designed to get deep into your unconscious mind. These tracks include:   Making decisions with unconscious clarity   Making anxiety your best friend   Spinning anxiety away (weird, but it works!)   They join nearly 70 free hypnosis audios I’ve created for the Personal Development Unplugged community — all downloadable, no credit cards, no catches. 👉 Get instant access: &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; Inside, you’ll also discover my best tip for using hypnosis effectively: set your intention before you press play — it supercharges results. Share this with friends who could use a little help. Change is quick, easy, and waiting for you. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  3 New Hypnosis Tracks With My Compliments &nbsp;  Hello my friends. &nbsp;  Now, a little while ago I recorded three longer podcast episodes that contained processes. Processes for considering decisions using your unconscious mind but also making anxiety your best friend and also spinning anxiety away which is really weird but it's a lovely process. It just works and I use all these processes with my clients and they just seem to work and what I wanted to do was to re-edit them and put them into real hypnosis tracks. &nbsp;  I call them real hypnosis tracks because it's not the relaxer therapy it's the real stuff but I made it slightly different. I've made them multi-layered so you're getting information into different hemispheres, different places, all over the place. My voice comes to you from everywhere and goes in everywhere and it makes such a difference because you can then let yourself go. &nbsp;  So what I've done I've done those tracks now and I've now uploaded them to my special place. My special place where I've got nearly 70, probably I have got 70 hypnosis tracks now and they're all complementary. They're free. &nbsp;  They're for you. It's my bit of giving back to the world as it were. So if you'd like them and if you're not a member of the podcast community, the Personal Development Unplugged podcast community, then all you have to do is go to pawcluffonline.com forward slash podcast and you'll get a return email from me. &nbsp;  There's no credit cards because as I said they're completely complementary and you'll get a link and you press that link and there you're taken to this wonderful website. A wonderful website with say 70 processes with these three included and you can download them because that's why I put them on this separate website. So you can download...

#458 3 New Hypnosis Tracks With My Compliments

Why You Don’t Succeed and How To Why do so many people fail to succeed while others break through and create the life they dream of? In this episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast, I dive into four powerful questions that can change how you think about success, failure, and the choices you make every day. Are you just settling? Trying to move mountains? Wishing life was easy? Or constantly struggling? Here’s the thing — success isn’t about either/or. It’s about this AND that. It’s about striving, celebrating the plateaus, reviewing your values, and then springboarding forward with even more clarity and energy.  You’ll discover: Why settling keeps you stuck in the “I wish I had” syndrome How moving mountains without balance makes you lose what you value most The secret power of the&nbsp;plateau and why it’s not failure but fuel  How to build harmony (not balance) into your journey to success The five keys to success that pull it all together  If you’ve ever felt stuck, stalled, or doubted yourself on the way to your goals, this episode is for you. By the end, you’ll know how to pause, review, and reignite your path — and you’ll be ready to step into the top few percent who actually succeed. Listen now, share with a friend who needs this, and let’s make success inevitable.  Oh! And if you want to see the video recording as well here's the link  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , &gt;, Music by  from , Music by  from , And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism &nbsp;&nbsp;  Good day, good morning, good afternoon, and any of all that stuff. Why don't you achieve success? Do you know what? I'm going to go straight into this with two, three, maybe four questions and see if they resonate with you. Here's the first one. &nbsp;  Are you simply just settling for what you have? You know, that settle for what you've got. It's that balance. And you know what I think about balance. &nbsp;  It's shit. But never mind. Just see if that sort of resonates with you. &nbsp;  Are you just settling for what you have? Or, are you moving mountains to get what you want? Are you moving mountains to get your dreams, your goals? Do you really put every effort in? Do you see every moment of the day what you're looking for, the smell of success, and you're going for it every hour of the day? Now those two questions I heard from a guy called Alex Horowitz. I think that's how you pronounce his name. Superb, lovely guy, lovely guy. &nbsp;  Loves his questions and questioning himself and human behaviour. Here's your third question. Similar vein, similar vein. &nbsp;  Do you want it easy? Do you want it easy? That's life that is. No stress, no worry, no effort. You're just gonna be...

#459 Why You Don't Succeed and How To

Spicing Up Success Ever wondered why some goals feel like a slog while others seem to flow? In this 5-minute quickie, I dive into Neville Goddard’s powerful idea of the feeling of the wish fulfilled—and then I take it further. What if you didn’t just imagine the emotion of achieving your dream… but also stepped into the psychology and physiology of already having it? How would you breathe, walk, talk, and think if your goal was done and dusted? This is more than just motivation—it’s how you train your unconscious mind to notice opportunities, attract success faster, and build unstoppable inner confidence. So if you’re ready to achieve your dreams quicker, richer, and with more certainty—hit play. And if you know someone chasing their goals, share this with them. It might be exactly the nudge they need. 👉 Subscribe, share, and let’s make success contagious.  And you can see the video of this episode here  Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , &gt;, Music by  from , Music by  from , &nbsp; And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism  &nbsp;  Hello and welcome back to the five minute quickie. Something to amuse about and this is I think really important but it's so quick because we all, I guess anyway, we all want to achieve our dreams. &nbsp;  We have goals that we'd like to succeed in and we'd like to have a life that is something worthwhile, isn't it? And that is made up of lots of mini goals, I guess, things that we'd like to have happen. And there was a guy who called Neville Goddard who spoke and wrote about a thing called the feeling of the wish fulfilled. And if you lived your life with that feeling, the feeling of the wish fulfilled, which in effect is if you can imagine having already got that goal, the thing that you wanted for, the thing you desire, your dream, what would that feel like? And then if you began to work towards that goal with that feeling, the feeling of the wish fulfilled, so as if you've already got it, it would just make it so much easier. &nbsp;  And it would, you'd attract it, your unconscious mind would look for all those different things, the reticular activating system and your biological just tends to notice and focus on all the things you want. And it's brilliant. The feeling of the wish fulfilled. &nbsp;  I'm going to do a longer podcast on this, but just to muse, what I've been thinking about is how could we make that a little bit richer, richer than the feeling of the wish fulfilled? Absolutely. Because that feeling is wonderful. If you imagine having already got the things that you want, being specific by the way, individually, wouldn't it be good? But hey, when you have that feeling and you can imagine having got your goal, you already know...

FMQ 511 Spicing Up Success

Letting Yourself Down: Thinking of Others – DON’T Do you put everyone else first? Always there for family, friends, even the ones who don’t always treat you right? That’s an incredible value to have — being dependable, supportive, and accountable. But here’s the truth: when you constantly put others before yourself, you’re letting yourself down. And when you let yourself down, you let everyone down. In this episode, I’ll guide you through a simple but powerful exercise to uncover your core life values — the foundation of who you are. Once you know your top three, you’ll understand how to live in alignment with them, stay true to yourself, and actually be a stronger support for those you care about. This isn’t about being selfish. It’s about knowing who you are, standing on that rock-solid foundation, and being accountable to you. From there, everything else — your goals, dreams, relationships — falls into place. Listen in and find out:   Why putting others first can actually let them down.   How to discover your top three life values.   How living by those values makes you the best version of you.   Why accountability starts with yourself — or it doesn’t work at all.   It’s time to stop letting yourself down. Build your foundation. Live your values. And only then, lift up others. Let's share this with others  And there is a video of this too h Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul  Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at .  Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe?  to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review .  Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit .  Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to .  Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter:  Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.  Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on , Castbox, , YouTube, or on our . Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨  Music Credits Music by  from , Music by  from , Music by  from , &gt;, Music by  from , Music by  from , And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism &nbsp;  #460 Letting Yourself Down - Thinking Of Others -DON'T &nbsp;  So, what's this longer episode going to be about? Well, I don't think it's going to be about that long, but it is important. And you know, well I think I know you, you're the type of person who won't let their mates down. You'd probably do anything, anything, rather than let somebody down, because that's the type of person you are. &nbsp;  I think we've all done it, but I know you do it. You've rushed around, you've changed things, you know, you even made a few sacrifices probably and made a point that you could be counted on. You see, I think it's really good that you have that value, that you could be supportive and you're countable, you can be counted on. &nbsp;  That's a great value to have. I want you to just remember those times now, if you just think about it now, remembering those times when you have looked to just help others, you know, you're not going to let them down. It could be that you want to make sure that you can be dependable or depended on. &nbsp;  You infuse, you help motivate by being there. Remember it? Remember those times? I know there's more than one, so, you know, just have a think back for the moment right now,...

#460 Letting Yourself Down - Thinking Of Others -DON'T

Trying to leave this little old world and the people I meet in a better place then when I first met them.

Who am I and what do I do?………Paul Clough.

I now love helping making changes in people and guiding them to create the life they really want.
 
A personal look at me:
 
The above sentence was not always the case and being the best in the financial realms of the building industry was my aim and getting there by any means. I now know this is, and was, the worst way ~ even if I did make director of one of the largest building companies in Cambridge by the age of 30.
 
One of the major realisations came on my first ever training in hypnosis. I found that it’s not a win lose world and that a win win is only a low basis to live.
 
Being true to your beliefs and coming from a place of integrity where service is paramount. This understanding together with lots of NLP skills helped create my last partnership in the building industry grow from a turnover of £800k to £16m in less than twelve years and that can only be done with giving more than expected.
 
Another shaping of me came from two traumatic events in my life that happened within six months of each other which created a number of major changes in me and by beliefs in what is possible. I have written about my experience and how I dealt with it but more importantly it really showed me my love for my three boys and theirs for me and resulted in the step up to become a trainer of NLP (which I never intended) and my close and exciting work with two of my sons. In supporting Joseph and help create change in people in our training’s and his wonderful life changing ‘Be your potential weekend’ and with Luke the continuing development of Cambridge Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis processes. My relationship with my third son Daniel just keeps getting better and better too.
 
Not knowing how good I had become in change work in the beginning I generally studied, practiced and saw clients then things started to happen when I started to work following just my instincts. Two clients come to mind both in effect dying from the effects of what was happening to them and the way they felt and within one and two sessions respectively not only won the will to live they changed virtually in front of my eyes and being apart of that process was and is the best feeling alive.
 
The above are just three of many brilliant learnings I have had in my life.
The more formal bit

 
Paul Clough

I am a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP and Hypnosis and am passionate in assisting those who want to reach their full potential and his special skills form a unique foundation for success. I constantly seek and develope new skills and learning’s – through advanced levels of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy ™, Hypnosis and to improve everyone I work with.

I have an understanding of the mind/body connection which enables me to create in my clients the difference that makes the difference ~ from excellence to outstanding.

For those that want qualifications:

Certified Trainer and Consultant of Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Certified Master Practitioner of NLP & Time Line Therapy

Certified Master Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

Together with Luke and Joseph I have consistently strived and succeeded to create ways to improve peoples lives and give new beliefs of what’s possible. Our potential is without limits ~ infinite in every way.


FMQ 506 A Respectful Look at the Views Of Others

Paul Clough

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