It can be hard to be your best-self when presented with divorce and relationship challenges.  Often the elements of toxicity make it seem like the only choice is to guard and protect what can be hurt.  Yet, as you guard and protect, you can easily stay in a cycle of anguish.  In this episode, I give tips on how to offer the best version of yourself despite the circumstance. 

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Ep 68 Best-Self Tug-o-War

What has caused the feeling that you are feeling right now?  What's the cause of the uncomfortable circumstance you find yourself in?  Is it a bad decision in the past?  Is it someone else's actions or attacks on you?  It's how you answer these last two questions that dictate the life experiences you have right now.    

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Ep 69 Allowing the Past to be the Cause of Your Pain

Divorce presents things that are unfair, and threaten dreams and desire for certainty.  In this episode, I share context of a real situation to help listeners as they too search to know what to do when something threatens the very thing they want. 

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Ep 70 Wanting to Know What to Do

The second tier of divorce is the "divorce from dreams".  It's divorcing from the dream around any future want.  We form these constructs, often with the help of society, and when they are threatened the result is fear, doubt, worry and even high degrees of unfairness.  In this episode, Steve talks about threats to these constructs as the legal process works to solidify old money and new money settlements, and why it's important to work through the divorce from the inside out. 

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Ep 71 Old Money, New Money and Divorcing from a Construct

We approach divorce with a construct of the way things "should be".  It's this construct that drives much of one's behavior and reactions.  In this episode, Steve talks about personal divorce constructs and how they can block best outcomes.

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Ep. 72 Your Construct of Divorce

The fabric of an old life can cause you to hold onto what once was, and prevent you from allowing your new life to unfold.  In this process, you can get trapped in thinking about all that you lost, instead of grasping what is here now.  In this episode, I share an analogy from David Brooks' book, "The Second Mountain" to help with letting go of the fabric of your old life.   

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Ep. 73 Letting Go of the Old

Your divorce outcome is what you decide it is. It's as simple as that, or as hard as that. The outcome is not the swirling uncertainty, and the layers of toxic attacks - unless you decide those are pieces of the outcome you want. No, the outcome is what you decide it is - irrespective of the swirling forces outside of you. Once you decide to believe the drama cannot take any parts of what your "really own", then you are making a decision that you cannot lose, and are allowing full possibility - full prosperity - to open to your future. 

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Ep 74 The Outcome is What You Decide It Is

It's easy to get trapped in the divorce kaleidoscope of worry, doubt, fear, and uncertainty. In this episode, I talk about how to get over divorce by stopping the fragments from spinning out of control. 

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Ep 75  How to Get Over Divorce?

As the main provider for your family, you willingly offered a lifestyle.  At no point did you ever think one would suggest they have a “right” to maintain that standard of living.  The obligation you shouldered pre-divorce tied more to the dreams you wanted for your united family.  Now that the separation is here, there is a shift in this obligation.  Instead of the welcoming the free will to provide, you find yourself stuck as you lose this free-will and shoulder entitlement.  In this episode, I share how to reverse the paralyzing negativity of this new form of obligation.

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Ep 76 Reversal of Obligation

Problems are teachers, not persecutors.  Many see problems as the thing that’s breaking them.  No, problems are what's teaching where you are arguing against the truth.  They show where we are absent a tool to create change.  In this episode, I share how to look at problems with curiosity so that you can be the creator around the problem.

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Ep. 72 Your Construct of Divorce

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